Top Ten New Year's Resolutions

Top Ten New Year’s Resolutions

1. Give my self permission to lose control (in non-destructive ways).

2. Spend my time building on my strengths rather than patching up my weaknesses.

3. Ask myself every day “What do I need?” and then take a step to meet that need.

4. Make myself right instead of wrong.

5. Honor my sadness and know that living with great vibrancy is the greatest tribute to those we love.

6. Make a list of activities that are delightful and do one every week.

7. Honor pleasure over performance demands, some of the time.

8. Admit that I don’t know.

9. Slow Down.

10. Say “NO” to myself on occasion and to others on many more occasions.

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Comments

[Steven (Resolution-less) Ang]

Wow,I have never come across people making resolutions like this. From where I come from the resolutions would be like: I want to get married this year (period); I want to quit smoking (period); or I want to make $100K this year. That's it!

I like your resolutions (for 2007, if I am not mistaken) and would like to comment on the first 2 especially. Here goes:

1. Give my self permission to lose control (in non-destructive ways). Yeah, I can see myself here in a "special room" where all hell can break lose, like smashing stones, bottles or whatever I can get my hands on, to vent my pent-up anger once in a while!

2. Spend my time building on my strengths rather than patching up my weaknesses. I agree with building one's strength but I do believe that it is equally important to rectify the weaknesses as well. Using an analogy, if there is a hole in the bucket, we can never fill up with bucket. Just my two cents worth of opinion.